Each day she’d wake up and go through her routine: meditate, work-out, answer social media, message any new leads, and then handle any calls that were booked.
Quinn made decent cash doing this, but her empire was growing slowly, and it was putting a strain on her marriage. She needed a better source of leads and clients.
Something had to change.
So Quinn booked a flight and headed to Evan’s Thought-Leadership Academy in Toronto.
During that 3-day whirlwind, Quinn met J-Ryze and applied to his and Evan’s business accelerator. Before she knew it, she was in, and felt blessed to be accepted into Soar.
She added meetings with J to her daily routine, and quickly revolutionized her entire brand. New name, new logo, new website, and a new business model all whipped up in a single month. Insane speed.
But it made sense.
J was a badass who wouldn’t settle for less. He was a modern-day Yoda or Socrates, able to clarify any issue, advise in any situation, help solve any problem. Quinn felt like a king with her own personal Merlin.
So why the hell was she still struggling to build her empire?
Why was she still having trouble maintaining a satisfying relationship with her husband? It felt as if giant concrete bricks were weighing down on her head, shoulders, and spine.
Why was her progress in everything so slow? Why did things feel bad?
The truth was, although Quinn had implemented so much of J’s advice, there was a hidden obstacle.
Despite being obsessively reminded that “filling the funnel” was vital, Quinn still had no strategy to get new eyeballs, fans, and leads for her business.
And she felt like she’d tried everything.
J pointed out that manual comment outreach brought reliable leads, but Quinn hated the grind. J suggested that interviews & collabs brought reliable leads too, but Quinn hated ‘pitching’ other influencers on interviews. J reminded that Facebook Ads could bring in reliable leads, but Quinn didn’t have a proper budget for it.
Every idea J had, Quinn either shot-down or failed-to-execute well.
She was starting to feel unworthy of Soar.
She’d expected better of herself and her business.
Until J sent her a… quiz.
Yeah, you’d think a simple quiz wouldn’t really do much, but it was surprisingly helpful.
After taking it, Quinn realized she was straight-up bad at prioritizing value.
She couldn’t tell what behaviors, actions, or choices were valuable to her life, ’cause although she had her #OneWord, (courtesy of Evan Carmichael), she didn’t realize that her instincts were waaaay down on her priorities list.
That needed to be fixed, if she was going to make any proper decisions, so Quinn made a change.
From now on, she’d trust her instincts far more. And her instincts told her she needed to spend more time filling her funnel. She’d been ignoring them. She’d been listening to her fears, her need for comfort, doing what other people expected instead of what she knew was best.
Realizations from that quiz was a huge turning point.
She decided to try her interview-strategy again, but this time, hire someone on Upwork to book the guests.
Suddenly, she had more collaborations than she could handle, and her follower-growth spiked hard. This led to more clients, which led to… finally… more money.
It felt good.
Better than that, J was proud of her, and Quinn felt like she was actually on the right track.
It felt really good.
Even better than that, things with her husband smoothed out considerably. She shared her quiz results with him so that he understood how she was prioritizing better. They were both happy with the growth and momentum.
It felt epically good!
Quinn had a new lease on life, because she was a new person, who had a new understanding of herself, her values, and how they related to each other.
A better understanding of values, made Quinn more valuable.
She knew she was doing something right, and it was bound to get even better.
Truly, a happy ending, as well as a new beginning 🙂
The reason I ask, is ’cause self-awareness is the single biggest factor to your success. Evan Carmichael says “A lot of people are stuck in frustration mode, but they don’t know why– this is the starting point: figuring out your most important core value.” And Gary Vaynerchuk says “Everyone’s got [a core value]. The key, however, is learning how to find it.”
But here’s a fact most don’t like to admit.
Chances are that your perspective on yourself is distorted.
People talk about introspection as if lots of people do it, but is the word “introspection” merely a nice metaphor? Could it be that we are not really looking into ourselves, but instead producing a flattering self-image that denies any failings we may have? Research on self-knowledge has shown much evidence for this conclusion.
Although we THINK we’re observing ourselves clearly, our self-image is affected by processes that remain unconscious.
Plus, we deceive ourselves without realizing it.
According to one influential theory, our self-deception stems from our desire to impress others. To be convincing, must be self-convinced of our capabilities & truthfulness, first. Supporting this theory is the the fact that successful manipulators are often quite full of themselves. Good salespeople, for example, exude an enthusiasm that is contagious; conversely, those who doubt themselves generally are not good at sweet talking.
So because most of us wanna look good, we lie to ourselves on quizzes like this 🙂
Speaking of which, I looked at a handful of other ‘values’ quizzes out there, and figured I could do better.
Some people think more questions equals a better quiz, but I disagree.
Figuring out our own values shouldn’t be that hard.
It’s not neuro-surgery. We all know what’s in our own thoughts. We all know what’s in our own hearts.
Only thing is, sometimes it’s nice when a few precise questions inspires us to really tune into it, inspires us to really think it through.
To be honest, I made this quiz out of frustration.
Because I see clients suffer when they aren’t self-aware. I only enjoy interacting with people who are aware and can assess their value properly.
Seriously, don’t you? People who figure themselves out are so much fun to be around. AND they’re more successful.
Anyway, at first I figured there’s gotta be a quiz out there I can simply link people to, but it wasn’t as easy as that.
There wasn’t a good enough one out there, so I decided to make my own.
In the process, I found many long lists of values out there, but they read like a thesaurus. They’re basically giant lists of synonyms.
So I’ve grouped and categorized most values into 10 simple categories.
On top of that, I’ve left out values such as ‘FREEDOM’ or ‘JOY’ which are pretty much universally adored. They’re kind of a given, and don’t need addressing, in my opinion.
The remaining values have been trimmed down to fit into the following categories:
Accomplishment, Artfulness, Connection, Discernment, Expression, Feelings, Focus, Preparation, Skill, and Well-Being.
I encourage you to read and think about how each applies to you before taking the quiz.
Accomplishment values mostly fall into categories of legacy & growth. People who prioritize this are hungry for impact and a lasting legacy, and expect the accolades and wealth to come along with it.
Others simply want the praise of their families and the people close to them, so they’ll prioritize ‘accomplishment’ much less.
Still others ignore it almost entirely, happy to live as a hermit.
An example of low accomplishment values might be an apathetic teenager. An example of high-accomplishment values could be Elon Musk.
Artfulness values are things like beauty, creativity, and harmony. People who prioritize this care about detail and nuance. They’re sensitive to the beauty of the world. They get the power of image and presentation and art. They also prioritize explorative play, inspired creation, and riding (or bucking) trends.
People who de-prioritize this are often not seen to be very ‘artful’ in their conduct, and may even appear boring, bland, and sloppy in their work or presentation.
An example of low artfulness values might be anyone who can’t admit they suck. True artists are always aware of exactly how good their creation compared to what’s already out there. For an example of high-artfulness values, think Steve Jobs or Beyoncé — everything they create is pure art.
Connection values are things like community, fairness, and selflessness. People who prioritize this care about family and tribe. They’ll go the extra mile to keep in touch with others, and do it with a smile. They get energized from events and interaction and engaging with people.
People who de-prioritize this tend to be prickly lone-wolves, hungry for solitude and privacy, and uninterested in the company of others.
An example of low connection values might be Howard Hughes. For high-connection values, think people like Will or Jada Smith.
Discernment values are things like clarity, awareness, and intuition. People who prioritize this care about truth-seeking and high perspective. They know the power of wisdom, and gladly put it over their own ego, status, and even survival.
People who de-prioritize discernment are likely to be too confused to make correct decisions, and reek of over-selfishness or timidity.
An example of low discernment values might be your average high-school student. High-discernment values could be embodied by someone like Maya Angelou.
Expression values are things like assertiveness and, well… expressiveness. People who prioritize this care about speaking their truth and spreading their message, whether big or small. They know that a silent world would be dull, and that thoughts need to be expressed and communicated. They often create content, not aiming to make it ‘art’, but because they have something to say. Or even more importantly, to spark others towards their own expressions.
People who de-prioritize expression are much pickier about when they speak up and how, and are often lost in their own worlds and thoughts, or hesitant to put much content out.
An example of low expression values might be a tough, “masculine” person who refuses to express their feelings. High-expression values could be embodied by someone like Kanye West.
Feelings values are things such as instinct, conscience, and intuition. People who prioritize this care about doing what’s right, following their heart, and acknowledging their truth. They’re usually quite good at going with the flow of life and owning their desires.
People who de-prioritize feelings are caught between a rock and hard place, with no outs. Ethical dilemmas, lack of integrity, and inability to act show up here.
An example of low feeling values is, hmm… a bad lawyer. An example of high feeling values are people like Beyonce and Oprah.
Focus values are things like consistency, simplicity, and attention. People who prioritize this care about paying attention, investing smartly and simply, and having the discipline to stick with something until they’re satisfied.
People who de-prioritize focus are quick to jump topics, rarely persist with something to any level of success, and have huge chunks of important data escape their attention.
An example of low focus values might be a toddler. High-focus values could be embodied by someone like Jay Z or David Goggins.
Preparation values are things like reliability, agility, and practicality. People who prioritize this care about rock-solid stability, creations that are highly scalable, and plans that are adaptable… leaving them prepared for short-term and long-term changes in the world.
People who de-prioritize preparation rarely think ahead, rarely invest time in ‘boring’ details such as ‘will this scale’, or ‘is this sustainable.’.
An example of low preparation values might be an out-of-pocket ‘hippie’. We can see high preparation values in people such as Jeff Bezos or Jocko Willink.
Skill values are things like efficiency, intelligence, and mastery. People who prioritize this care about mastering their crafts. They care about finding every little tip and trick they can, performing effectively, and demonstrating skill, regardless of accolades.
People who de-prioritize skill are often mediocre, unimpressive, and ‘tolerated’ in their positions or professions.
An example of low skill values might be a spoiled novice who gets everything done for them. An example of high skill values can be seen in polymaths, record-setters, and multi-sport athletes, think people like Leonardo DaVinci, Eminem, or Bo Jackson.
Well-being values are things such as vitality, love, and stamina. People who prioritize this care about health and fitness. Health is wealth, to them, and they’ll prioritize over career or relationship ambitions, often ending up in physical performance fields.
People who de-prioritize well-being are sick often, frail, or generally unfit.
An example of low well-being values is a hypochondriac. For high well-being values we can look to people such as Cameron Diaz, Jennifer Lopez, and Daniel Craig.